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AITA for not speaking to a life long friend because I want an apology?

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  • T th3d3k0y@lemmy.world

    I mean, kinda?

    As the others have said legit friends are hard to come by. Especially those from 30 years ago. I've gotten in more than one real screaming matches with friends and we got past it, being this sensitive over a couple of text messages if all they said were "delete" is a bit extreme.

    If there is additional context to this obviously it changes

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    medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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    The text were very demanding. Sorry I didn't save them to get exact phrasing. My biggest gripe is that HE could've deleted it himself and addressed the issue after.

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    • B brucethemoose@lemmy.world

      AITA?

      I mean, that doesn't matter.

      Don't think of it like "who's the asshole here," not over this. Just talk. Friends are way more important than judgements like that.

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      medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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      My personality is too rigid. (BPD). I always talk myself into needing that apology, first.

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      • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

        He's practically a tree... Skinny, 6'2".

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        danekrae@lemmy.world
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        US and England with their foot fetish... You mean 1,88 meters 😉

        See, I try to help, and I'm being a dick at the same time. It's difficult to make friends.

        Edit: I didn't downvote BTW, and I don't thing anyone is the asshole.

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        • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

          The text were very demanding. Sorry I didn't save them to get exact phrasing. My biggest gripe is that HE could've deleted it himself and addressed the issue after.

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          th3d3k0y@lemmy.world
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          I get you, but at the same time when I deal with people that I feel did the wrong thing, I like to have them fulfill the action to solidify the correction. Like at work having people fix the status of actions despite the fact I could have done it and it actually takes longer to tell them to correct it.

          It is also possible this person isn't aware they could remove it from their own page? I don't have a Facebook any more so I dunno.

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          • T th3d3k0y@lemmy.world

            I get you, but at the same time when I deal with people that I feel did the wrong thing, I like to have them fulfill the action to solidify the correction. Like at work having people fix the status of actions despite the fact I could have done it and it actually takes longer to tell them to correct it.

            It is also possible this person isn't aware they could remove it from their own page? I don't have a Facebook any more so I dunno.

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            medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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            I would guess the later. However, I don't consider that a good excuse.

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            • D danekrae@lemmy.world

              US and England with their foot fetish... You mean 1,88 meters 😉

              See, I try to help, and I'm being a dick at the same time. It's difficult to make friends.

              Edit: I didn't downvote BTW, and I don't thing anyone is the asshole.

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              medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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              A tree none the less.

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              • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

                AITA, on April 29th, I noticed a FB post from my BFF, it's theme was about "leaving a party early".

                My BFF notoriously falls asleep early and drifts away from any gatherings at his house.

                In the comments section, I posted a photo from about '92-'93, of him sleeping on a couch. I'm in the photo behind the couch. Two other friends are at each end of the couch. Either sitting on the armrest or leaning on it. No booze, drugs or anyone flipping the bird. IMO: very innocent photo.

                A couple of days after my photo comment, he sent at least 3 text in rapid fire mode. Essentially "screaming" at me to delete that photo.

                It took a brief moment to get onto FB and delete that photo. But, those texts all came in faster than I could take care of the situation.

                Keep in mind, it's on HIS FB page, he had full control to delete the photo himself. Then, he could've "yelled" at me via text/phone call.

                IMO: he owes me an apology for the way he "screamed" at me via text. We haven't said more than "Hey." at any group gatherings since the episode.

                AITA?

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                chetmanly@lemmy.world
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                I am assuming you are an adult here, but this is some high school level shit. Why are you running to the internet over something so trivial?

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                • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

                  My personality is too rigid. (BPD). I always talk myself into needing that apology, first.

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                  brucethemoose@lemmy.world
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                  Fair.

                  But don't dwell on it! Just talk, and talk some more. I promise, you will be happier that way.

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                  • C chetmanly@lemmy.world

                    I am assuming you are an adult here, but this is some high school level shit. Why are you running to the internet over something so trivial?

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                    medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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                    Adult is questionable. Hence, my appearance in this group.

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                    • B brucethemoose@lemmy.world

                      Fair.

                      But don't dwell on it! Just talk, and talk some more. I promise, you will be happier that way.

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                      medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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                      Ha, don't "dwell" about it. More than 6 months already 🙄

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                      • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

                        Ha, don't "dwell" about it. More than 6 months already 🙄

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                        danekrae@lemmy.world
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                        Starting now.

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                        • D danekrae@lemmy.world

                          Starting now.

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                          medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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                          Nice try.

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