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AITA for not speaking to a life long friend because I want an apology?

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  • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

    AITA, on April 29th, I noticed a FB post from my BFF, it's theme was about "leaving a party early".

    My BFF notoriously falls asleep early and drifts away from any gatherings at his house.

    In the comments section, I posted a photo from about '92-'93, of him sleeping on a couch. I'm in the photo behind the couch. Two other friends are at each end of the couch. Either sitting on the armrest or leaning on it. No booze, drugs or anyone flipping the bird. IMO: very innocent photo.

    A couple of days after my photo comment, he sent at least 3 text in rapid fire mode. Essentially "screaming" at me to delete that photo.

    It took a brief moment to get onto FB and delete that photo. But, those texts all came in faster than I could take care of the situation.

    Keep in mind, it's on HIS FB page, he had full control to delete the photo himself. Then, he could've "yelled" at me via text/phone call.

    IMO: he owes me an apology for the way he "screamed" at me via text. We haven't said more than "Hey." at any group gatherings since the episode.

    AITA?

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    danekrae@lemmy.world
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    He may, if you tell him how you feel.

    "I was wrong to post that photo without consent, but you went over the line and really hurt my feelings."

    If the problem is "only" this, try. Friends don't grow on trees.

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    • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

      AITA, on April 29th, I noticed a FB post from my BFF, it's theme was about "leaving a party early".

      My BFF notoriously falls asleep early and drifts away from any gatherings at his house.

      In the comments section, I posted a photo from about '92-'93, of him sleeping on a couch. I'm in the photo behind the couch. Two other friends are at each end of the couch. Either sitting on the armrest or leaning on it. No booze, drugs or anyone flipping the bird. IMO: very innocent photo.

      A couple of days after my photo comment, he sent at least 3 text in rapid fire mode. Essentially "screaming" at me to delete that photo.

      It took a brief moment to get onto FB and delete that photo. But, those texts all came in faster than I could take care of the situation.

      Keep in mind, it's on HIS FB page, he had full control to delete the photo himself. Then, he could've "yelled" at me via text/phone call.

      IMO: he owes me an apology for the way he "screamed" at me via text. We haven't said more than "Hey." at any group gatherings since the episode.

      AITA?

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      brucethemoose@lemmy.world
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      #3

      AITA?

      I mean, that doesn't matter.

      Don't think of it like "who's the asshole here," not over this. Just talk. Friends are way more important than judgements like that.

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      • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

        AITA, on April 29th, I noticed a FB post from my BFF, it's theme was about "leaving a party early".

        My BFF notoriously falls asleep early and drifts away from any gatherings at his house.

        In the comments section, I posted a photo from about '92-'93, of him sleeping on a couch. I'm in the photo behind the couch. Two other friends are at each end of the couch. Either sitting on the armrest or leaning on it. No booze, drugs or anyone flipping the bird. IMO: very innocent photo.

        A couple of days after my photo comment, he sent at least 3 text in rapid fire mode. Essentially "screaming" at me to delete that photo.

        It took a brief moment to get onto FB and delete that photo. But, those texts all came in faster than I could take care of the situation.

        Keep in mind, it's on HIS FB page, he had full control to delete the photo himself. Then, he could've "yelled" at me via text/phone call.

        IMO: he owes me an apology for the way he "screamed" at me via text. We haven't said more than "Hey." at any group gatherings since the episode.

        AITA?

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        th3d3k0y@lemmy.world
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        I mean, kinda?

        As the others have said legit friends are hard to come by. Especially those from 30 years ago. I've gotten in more than one real screaming matches with friends and we got past it, being this sensitive over a couple of text messages if all they said were "delete" is a bit extreme.

        If there is additional context to this obviously it changes

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        • D danekrae@lemmy.world

          He may, if you tell him how you feel.

          "I was wrong to post that photo without consent, but you went over the line and really hurt my feelings."

          If the problem is "only" this, try. Friends don't grow on trees.

          medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
          medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
          medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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          He's practically a tree... Skinny, 6'2".

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          • T th3d3k0y@lemmy.world

            I mean, kinda?

            As the others have said legit friends are hard to come by. Especially those from 30 years ago. I've gotten in more than one real screaming matches with friends and we got past it, being this sensitive over a couple of text messages if all they said were "delete" is a bit extreme.

            If there is additional context to this obviously it changes

            medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
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            medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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            The text were very demanding. Sorry I didn't save them to get exact phrasing. My biggest gripe is that HE could've deleted it himself and addressed the issue after.

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            • B brucethemoose@lemmy.world

              AITA?

              I mean, that doesn't matter.

              Don't think of it like "who's the asshole here," not over this. Just talk. Friends are way more important than judgements like that.

              medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
              medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
              medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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              My personality is too rigid. (BPD). I always talk myself into needing that apology, first.

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              • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

                He's practically a tree... Skinny, 6'2".

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                danekrae@lemmy.world
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                #8

                US and England with their foot fetish... You mean 1,88 meters 😉

                See, I try to help, and I'm being a dick at the same time. It's difficult to make friends.

                Edit: I didn't downvote BTW, and I don't thing anyone is the asshole.

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                • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

                  The text were very demanding. Sorry I didn't save them to get exact phrasing. My biggest gripe is that HE could've deleted it himself and addressed the issue after.

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                  th3d3k0y@lemmy.world
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                  I get you, but at the same time when I deal with people that I feel did the wrong thing, I like to have them fulfill the action to solidify the correction. Like at work having people fix the status of actions despite the fact I could have done it and it actually takes longer to tell them to correct it.

                  It is also possible this person isn't aware they could remove it from their own page? I don't have a Facebook any more so I dunno.

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                  • T th3d3k0y@lemmy.world

                    I get you, but at the same time when I deal with people that I feel did the wrong thing, I like to have them fulfill the action to solidify the correction. Like at work having people fix the status of actions despite the fact I could have done it and it actually takes longer to tell them to correct it.

                    It is also possible this person isn't aware they could remove it from their own page? I don't have a Facebook any more so I dunno.

                    medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
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                    medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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                    I would guess the later. However, I don't consider that a good excuse.

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                    • D danekrae@lemmy.world

                      US and England with their foot fetish... You mean 1,88 meters 😉

                      See, I try to help, and I'm being a dick at the same time. It's difficult to make friends.

                      Edit: I didn't downvote BTW, and I don't thing anyone is the asshole.

                      medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
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                      medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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                      #11

                      A tree none the less.

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                      • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

                        AITA, on April 29th, I noticed a FB post from my BFF, it's theme was about "leaving a party early".

                        My BFF notoriously falls asleep early and drifts away from any gatherings at his house.

                        In the comments section, I posted a photo from about '92-'93, of him sleeping on a couch. I'm in the photo behind the couch. Two other friends are at each end of the couch. Either sitting on the armrest or leaning on it. No booze, drugs or anyone flipping the bird. IMO: very innocent photo.

                        A couple of days after my photo comment, he sent at least 3 text in rapid fire mode. Essentially "screaming" at me to delete that photo.

                        It took a brief moment to get onto FB and delete that photo. But, those texts all came in faster than I could take care of the situation.

                        Keep in mind, it's on HIS FB page, he had full control to delete the photo himself. Then, he could've "yelled" at me via text/phone call.

                        IMO: he owes me an apology for the way he "screamed" at me via text. We haven't said more than "Hey." at any group gatherings since the episode.

                        AITA?

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                        chetmanly@lemmy.world
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                        #12

                        I am assuming you are an adult here, but this is some high school level shit. Why are you running to the internet over something so trivial?

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                        • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

                          My personality is too rigid. (BPD). I always talk myself into needing that apology, first.

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                          brucethemoose@lemmy.world
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                          Fair.

                          But don't dwell on it! Just talk, and talk some more. I promise, you will be happier that way.

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                          • C chetmanly@lemmy.world

                            I am assuming you are an adult here, but this is some high school level shit. Why are you running to the internet over something so trivial?

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                            medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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                            Adult is questionable. Hence, my appearance in this group.

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                            • B brucethemoose@lemmy.world

                              Fair.

                              But don't dwell on it! Just talk, and talk some more. I promise, you will be happier that way.

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                              medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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                              #15

                              Ha, don't "dwell" about it. More than 6 months already 🙄

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                              • medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.worldM medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world

                                Ha, don't "dwell" about it. More than 6 months already 🙄

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                                danekrae@lemmy.world
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                                Starting now.

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                                • D danekrae@lemmy.world

                                  Starting now.

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                                  medicpigbabysaver@lemmy.world
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                                  #17

                                  Nice try.

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