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I cannot orgasm, and am getting tired of "enjoying the ride", how can I find pleasure again?

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    juicyjessisfun@lemmynsfw.com
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    I’m 37MTF, and haven’t had an actual orgasm in a…very long time. The last one I experienced was when I relapsed on coke, and it was amazing. Prior to that, I’d say it has been 10+ years since my last orgasm. I don’t plan on falling off again any time soon, so I don’t know what to do.

    For a long time, I derived my pleasure from satisfying whichever random guy I was having an encounter with. This worked for so many years, but I’ve grown tired of it now.

    I think it is the HRT I am on that has extinguished my ability to cum. I won’t stop taking it, but I want to feel it again—I’ve forgotten.

    Receiving oral does nothing for me, being penetrated is nice, but I’m over it.

    What suggestions might you have? What can I do? Or do I need to try to learn to enjoy it again? If so, how?

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      I’m 37MTF, and haven’t had an actual orgasm in a…very long time. The last one I experienced was when I relapsed on coke, and it was amazing. Prior to that, I’d say it has been 10+ years since my last orgasm. I don’t plan on falling off again any time soon, so I don’t know what to do.

      For a long time, I derived my pleasure from satisfying whichever random guy I was having an encounter with. This worked for so many years, but I’ve grown tired of it now.

      I think it is the HRT I am on that has extinguished my ability to cum. I won’t stop taking it, but I want to feel it again—I’ve forgotten.

      Receiving oral does nothing for me, being penetrated is nice, but I’m over it.

      What suggestions might you have? What can I do? Or do I need to try to learn to enjoy it again? If so, how?

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      zloubida@sh.itjust.works
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      I'm not a doctor and I'm cis so, I'm not sure I could be useful but: do you masturbate? Listening to your own body by yourself may help. Or not, but if you don't it may be worth the try (a few tries, actually).

      And I agree with @Pornphilosoph@lemmynsfw.com : if you didn't, speak to an actual doctor. Sexuality is a part of a healthy life, so it's their domain too.

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        I'm not a doctor and I'm cis so, I'm not sure I could be useful but: do you masturbate? Listening to your own body by yourself may help. Or not, but if you don't it may be worth the try (a few tries, actually).

        And I agree with @Pornphilosoph@lemmynsfw.com : if you didn't, speak to an actual doctor. Sexuality is a part of a healthy life, so it's their domain too.

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        juicyjessisfun@lemmynsfw.com
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        It’s almost as though I have no feeling down there. Nothing really stimulates me enough for it to get hard, not enough to get hard. I use my hitachi magic wand and watch porn, and it feels like I get 50% there, but then it just kind of fizzles out.

        I have my first doctors appointment in several years coming up in a week, I’ll mention it then. I had not thought of that 😅

        Thanks

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          It’s almost as though I have no feeling down there. Nothing really stimulates me enough for it to get hard, not enough to get hard. I use my hitachi magic wand and watch porn, and it feels like I get 50% there, but then it just kind of fizzles out.

          I have my first doctors appointment in several years coming up in a week, I’ll mention it then. I had not thought of that 😅

          Thanks

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          psaldorn@lemmy.world
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          Have you been checked for diabetes?

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            Have you been checked for diabetes?

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            juicyjessisfun@lemmynsfw.com
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            I haven’t, could that be related?

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              I haven’t, could that be related?

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              jet@hackertalks.com
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              Sexual function is the early warning sign of metabolic health, eventually bad metabolism leads to diabetes

              You can get a home glucose meter and check, or a continuous glucose monitor and see your blood sugar in real time

              If you have your last lipid panel you can look at the ratio of tg/HDL to see your insulin sensitivity, less then 2 is ok, less then 1 is great.

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                Sexual function is the early warning sign of metabolic health, eventually bad metabolism leads to diabetes

                You can get a home glucose meter and check, or a continuous glucose monitor and see your blood sugar in real time

                If you have your last lipid panel you can look at the ratio of tg/HDL to see your insulin sensitivity, less then 2 is ok, less then 1 is great.

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                juicyjessisfun@lemmynsfw.com
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                Gosh I hope I don’t have diabetes… My diet is kinda bad.

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                  Gosh I hope I don’t have diabetes… My diet is kinda bad.

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                  jet@hackertalks.com
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                  You probably don't have diabetes, it takes years and years to build up. Just check on your insulin sensitivity, hba1c, tg/hdl - what have you. Any improvements you can make will improve your sexual functions.

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